“If one can overcome this fear, has the courage to reconsider the essence of his/her life, and decide to learn and search for better beliefs and ideas, DESTINY will be remade for him/her, and real success will be achieved.”

From these words I continue to write what I think is a way of living life. Fear is one element that affects on us in everything we do in life. Our mind works in order to protect us and the plan that our mind works upon is learned since our birth and through life.

The human mind draws a pattern and uses it to protect us and sometimes prevent us from achievement and creativity. Imagine for example that you once stood up in the past and said something that many people rejected or laughed at. This draws a pattern in your mind in which the next time you think of saying something in front of other people, your mind will tell you STOP, you don’t want to look like a fool, and don’t you remember what happened in the last time, just shut your mouth and don’t say a word. It happens, don’t you think so? This is certainly true although this time you may say what you want to say and many will like or support or enjoy your suggested ideas.

I learned from a great man that once explained for me the way mind works that in our minds we have something that is similar to two rooms separated in which things that we do are placed inside these rooms and only one room is opened for us to remember things from it. One room is specialized for bad results that we get from our actions; for example when someone laughs at what we say. The other room is made to place in it good results; for example something that we succeed in like a work that we achieve. The problem is that our mind does not remind us with things that we get good results from it but keeps on reminding us with every single thing that we fail in.

This is connected to what I said before about the pattern in our mind that sometimes prevents us from achieving and creating. The secret is in having the ability to overcome the huge power of the mind that prevents us from achieving claiming that this is made to protect us. Even now while you are reading my words, your mind may tell you not to continue reading because this is stupid and not true. Think of it for a while, isn’t this true? How many times you had something good to say or a step to make but you prevented yourself from doing it because you were afraid to FAIL. This does not mean that we want to lose complete control but you must trust yourself and start to make decisions depending on your ideas and not the ideas that your mind observed from the world that you live in.

Your question now is how to overcome this and prevent it from happening completely. The answer is that you cannot prevent your mind from working like this completely because it is an instinct that you get once you come to this life. The solution is first of all to trust yourself and know that even if you fail, you will only succeed in the next time you try. Don’t you dare to forget what you achieved and did in your life. Remember everything good you do; a “Good Morning” that you say for someone, a smile that you give for someone else, your support that you gift for a friend, and anything else you do. This must be made in order to remember how a great person you are. The next thing you must do is to have the ability to shift from one status to another quickly and easily; don’t make anything affect on you especially if it is negative. Once you fall down, you must immediately stand up again.

If you start by applying this into your life, a change will happen. This will allow you to imply what I said before about creating your own beliefs and removing the blocks from your way to success. This does not mean that everything will change immediately. There is a shift that you will feel but it will happen after you get used to the new way that you will change for your life. Believe in yourself and work to make a change in yourself in order to change the place you live in, and then to change the world. As my friend Tony Robbins say, I shall end this lesson: Wake up every morning and say: Now I am The Voice
I will lead, not follow, I will create, not destroy, I will believe, not doubt, I am a force for good
I am a force for God, I am a leader, Defy the odds, Set a new standard, Step up!, Step up!, Step up!

Ziad Khalil Abu Zayyad

A Palestinian-Arab living in East Jerusalem, Ziad graduated from College Des Freres in Jerusalem in 2003. Ziad finished his major in International Relations and English Literature from the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, Ziad is a former President of the Watan student movement at the university. He is interested in Middle Eastern political issues and the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Founder of the Middle East Post and MEL (Middle East Future Leadership Network), he represents Palestinian youth at several international conferences.

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