So what is the story between men and women? Some say they cant live without each other while others live blaming each other. So who do think explains the [singlepic id=165 w=300 h=220 float=right]whole story in a right way? Men or Women? Or both together?

Actually it is hard to decide because specifically in this issue if you disagree with the storyteller you will turn to become one from the other side. Although many men try to mind love and try to live as much as they can without commitment they finally fall for someone. Women searching for eternity freedom, independence and a proof that the can live without men also fall. It is the nature and its effect.

Usually one relation from the past may affect the opinion of someone whether a man or a woman. If it is a bad one then the result would be an opinion that rejects any kind of belief in true love. Not only that they mind any new serious relations built on commitment and real love but they would try to affect on those who are around them.

Masculinity and Femininity are two things which are completely different but together they create a mixture that affects on any relation between a man and woman. Men love to enjoy their masculinity…if not all of them then most of them would prefer to do what they want to do without the long procedure of opening up, sharing feelings, and expression. Once they are joined together they turn into a one big bloc of masculinity. They simply want to enjoy their masculinity. When they are sitting with a crying woman they lose control and don’t know to do anything. They lose control and sometimes feel unable to express what they really feel. They can commit but they need time and they can love but they need to be convinced. They cant live without loving a woman even though they love showing that they can in front of their fellow men. In order to avoid any generalization or criticism this does not include all men although I am sure it is.

Women are the opposite…they love to live the moment…to have someone who likes to sit down and listen…they want someone who can sit down and listen without talking even when they are shouting and crying. They want commitment, loyalty, and safety if possible from the first day they love a man. They want it in their own way. They will never fall for someone who has femininity more than masculinity in his life or in other words not a man with all his sides…the good and the bad. They enjoy the moment they see a man admiring them. They love expressing everything…they love to be noticed…and they cant live without being admired. The most important mistake which a man must not make is betraying a lady that loves him. Once this happens nothing can be the same.

In other words what seems to be extremely important in the eyes of a man could be less important in the eyes of a woman and the opposite is right.

With all these contradictions and no matter how much it seems impossible to make them live with each other…when love comes in everything changes. If someone says that there is a way to reach perfection then he or she is wrong but knowing when to use masculinity and when to show femininity is the best way to give love a chance to stay. Both men and women have masculinity and femininity inside each of them and learning how to employ them into actions comes with time in any relation. If she wants you to share, listen, sympathize and express then do it and if he wants you to show him some femininity or what women know to do in order to see some attraction in the air then go for it. Just know when and what to be.

The only thing which can destroy any relation is the existence of masculinity or femininity in both a man and a woman in the same time. Think of it and compare it with what you experienced until today.

Ziad Khalil Abu Zayyad

A Palestinian-Arab living in East Jerusalem, Ziad graduated from College Des Freres in Jerusalem in 2003. Ziad finished his major in International Relations and English Literature from the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, Ziad is a former President of the Watan student movement at the university. He is interested in Middle Eastern political issues and the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Founder of the Middle East Post and MEL (Middle East Future Leadership Network), he represents Palestinian youth at several international conferences.

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